Respect is a man’s deepest value. I have had numerous men tell me, “I would rather live with a wife who respected me but did not love me than live with a wife who loved me but did not respect me.” These men are not saying that they are indifferent to love. They know they need love, but they need to feel respected even more than to feel loved.
When his wife shows him unconditional respect, in most cases a husband will feel like a prince and be motivated to show her the kind of unconditional love she desires. She is not a doormat or a slave. She is a princess who is loved and, by the way, respected also.
She wants him to bring flowers. He would rather fix the faucet. He needs to see that she wants flowers. She needs to see and appreciate that he wants to fix the sink.
I remind couples of Genesis 1:27 that “male and female He created them” and that we are as different as pink is from blue. I also remind couples that Genesis 1:27 states, “God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created them.” In other words, together in marriage, a blue husband and a pink wife reflect the image of God. Interestingly, when we blend pink and blue, they form the color purple, the color of royalty, the color of God.