The Love Experiment

1 Peter 4:8— “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly”. 

1 Corinthians 13:4-7— “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

The gift of love is in the GIVING, not the receiving. This is easier said than done. It’s something I have to remind myself of. I constantly have to say “It’s not about me, it’s about You (God)”, because as humans our flesh is always trying to be selfish and think about how “my” needs aren’t being met. The hardest thing to do is to feel like I’m always giving and not receiving anything back in return. Sometimes I get like that and if I’m not careful, I can quickly feel resentment creepin’ in. But when I catch it (Holy Spirit intervenes), He reminds me of all the things my husband does and what makes him special to me and He even reveals new things my husband did that I might have failed to acknowledge or have just missed. AND even sometimes I find myself feeling like I haven’t given anything compared to what he has, which keeps me humble because one things about my husband is that he don’t compare our good deeds and when he makes a decision to do something, its out the kindness of his heart.

Sometimes we’re just not meeting each others “[amazon_link id=”0802473156″ target=”_blank” locale=”US” container=”” container_class=”” ]Love Languages[/amazon_link]”. Which I have the book but haven’t read yet…lol, I got it off of amazon for like $8. But I definitely know my husband’s love languages are “acts of service” and “physical touch”, with “acts of service” being first. If he come home and the dishes are done (which I hate doing for whatever reason) or the floor is scrubbed, he is very happy and it makes his day. Then a foot rub is icing on the cake for him. He can careless about gifts and quality time…lol! Me on the other hand is like “keep it clean & don’t be sloppy(which he isn’t)” but other than that, if we can spend some time together, I’ll take that over cleaning some dishes (unless there out-of-control) and I do like gifts because to me gifts are an extension of your feelings so it’s the thought behind it that’s special to me. Unless your getting it as a replacement of your emotions instead of an extension.

So James McDonald used “The Love Experiment”  for his group but I thought it was a great idea to use with your spouse. I changed some of the wording to fit marriage.

1. Lose ourselves in our spouse. It’s about you, not me.

2. Listen deeply and hear what he/she is saying/ not saying.

3. Love the unlovely-in our marriage and in our home.

4. Leave our mistakes at the Cross. Love fuels forgiveness.

5. Discover God’s plan for our lives & marriage. We pray and seek the Lord together.

6. Lean on the Holy Spirit when we don’t know how to help or pray.

7. Lead each other to Christ. Our family is made whole through Christ.

‘Loving one another earnestly’ (1 Peter 4:8) should not be a slogan, make it an reality.

Give this a try for a week, I am too and lets share our experiences through out the week. What difference have we felt in ourselves and/or spouse, if any? How do we see our spouse through this? What has God revealed to you? How have you grown?

And honestly don’t try to do them all if you can’t, it’s better to choose one or two that your going to focus on changing than trying to do them all and not getting anywhere. REMEMBER K.I.S.(S.)-KEEP IT SIMPLE (SILLY)!!!


Thanks for checking in and God Bless… 🙂