10 Ways to Show Your Husband Love

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1. Respect Him– merriam webster defines respect as …a feeling of admiring someone or something that is good, valuable, important, etc.; …a feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way; …a particular way of thinking about or looking at something

33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33

This is an area that I still work on. Not that I disrespect him on purpose but because my flesh causes me to sin. First and foremost, ask God to show you what respect looks like. Ask the Holy Spirit to tell you when your being disrespectful or have been.

Some ways we can be respectful are by 1. being watchful with our remarks. Responding in a loving way. I can be very sarcastic but as I was studying the bible one day asking God to show me where I need work, he reminded me of my sharp tongue. 2. not “venting” to family and friends about him. 3. listening when he’s speaking without giving negative attitude even if we do not agree. 4. refrain from interrupting him while he’s speaking. 5. try to support his decisions even when you do not agree. Oh and NO NAGGING!!! and if your not sure if you are ask him. My husband and I have a rule… remind him 2x then the third time say “I know this is the 20th million time I’ve brought this up and you asked me to remind you for the 21st millionth time, would you like me to remind you at a specific time or date?” This is our corky way of communication but you get the point. 

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:11–12

2. Edify Him– Be positive! Edify means to build up, uplift, establish, or strengthen a person. When we’re talking to or about our husbands that should be the goal our conversations.

Our husbands are our providers, the heads of the household. That is not an easy task and sometimes it can wear on our spouses. They get tired, their going threw the motions so they often don’t see the progress and it can sometimes look like there is none. But remember we set the tone in our households with our attitudes. We should always be be positive about our futures. Speak life into him. Tell him how much your proud of him {and follow through with your actions}. Remind him of where you were and the progress that’s been made. Compliment him, praise him, thank him, and love him.

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11NIV

3. Cover him in prayer– I aim to pray for my husband everyday. Praying for our husbands and about our husbands are to different things. I do both. The reason being is that, I want to respect my husband and we all need to vent sometimes so instead of venting to friends and families about certain things I go to God. Tell Him how I honestly feel and ask him to fix me, to grow me, equip me, and to teach me.

When I pray for me husband, I pray for his mind, body/health, his soul, his strength, for him to have peace, to be lead by God, for his spiritual growth and wisdom, for his protection. I pray for daily renewal for him, that he is well rested and specific things for him such as he can be hot-headed or short patience with “lazy” people at work and the way he handled it in the past was often unacceptable {thank God, he has not had issues at his current job}.

4. Serve him– Find ways to serve him. It can small things like rubbing his feet, have food ready for him when he gets off work, create an atmosphere of peace, keep an orderly house, making sure he has clean clothes and good condition clothes (replacing old socks and t-shirts and etc.)

Through love serve one another. Galatians 5:13

5. Submit to him– submitting to your husband do not mean not having an opinion or a voice, do not mean he has the right to control you, and do not mean that as wives we are called to submit to sin, mistreatment, or abuse. Submission has to do with respecting our husbands position in our households. It is learning to honor our husbands as we would Christ. It is respecting our husbands decisions even when we do not agree {instead taking it to God and praying about it}. Being submissive is being receptive, agreeable, and leadable. 

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Colossians 3:18

6. Surprise him– Find ways to surprise him. It don’t have to be big, like my husband loves homemade mac & cheese and if he comes home and find out that’s for dinner, he’s like a little {frisky} puppy. You can also put little love notes in his pocket. Bake him his favorite cake. Mop the floors {did I lose you here…lol, is this just my husband??? Its his love language, not that the floors be filthy…} or whatever other kinda crazy he’s into. Run a bath with lots of bubbles and steam and rose peddles. There are a lot of other things you can do, maybe I’ll do a separate post. Oh, how about a gift for no reason… a “just for being you” gift.

7. Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him– I think this pretty much says it all.

8. Make love to him– Some of you are probably like “duh…” so I may be alone with this one {yeah right} but sometimes {kinda embarrassed to say..lol} sex just can seem inconvenient {whoa, that was seriously hard to write}. Sometimes we have so many other {“important”} things that we want “need” to do that we can kill the mood in a second. So this task is just as simple as going with the flow or even initiating it at times that you normally wouldn’t. Be spontaneous! Oh and add some flare! Like role playing {we have been working on this, it’s fun but feels a little weird at first so we laugh half way through our characters…lol <is this tmi?!? hey, we’re all {married} adults} or change scenes {you figure that one out}.

9. Listen to him– Sometimes what you hear is not what he’s trying to say. Hearing and listening are to different things. God has been teaching me this through me working on being quick to hear and slow to speak (James 1:19).

Often times while my husband is speaking I’ve to pray to focus on his words, to get understanding of what he is trying to say, and so on. Because I can be very quick with my response and men do not share their fears like us women do. So I try to create a “safe place” for him in our conversations, so that he can know that “it’s ok, you can be honest with me about your vulnerabilities.” That this is a serious place and I know this is not the time to playfully tease. We also have to be sure that if we take him to this place we won’t attack him for his honesty.

If we attack him, we for one disrespect him and for two we lose his trust. His trust with his emotions. Our husbands should be able to share his feelings about things whether we agree or not without being attacked. Sometimes they just need reassurance, other times you may not know what to say but “oh ok, I didn’t know that’s how you felt.” And depending on the type of relationship your spouse have with God, you can ask him if he wants to pray, or encourage him to pray, and then you also know how you can pray for your husband.

10. Baby him– My husband is a manny {ok, I made up that word but it works right?!?} man, he works hard and gets work done. But when he’s sick or not feeling well…. he is a big BABY! and is sooooo dramatic. I can’t help it but to laugh and tease him. I have come to embrace them times though because it don’t happen a lot and he deserves it. So I often find myself continually getting wet washcloths, cough drops, or cold medicine, or pepto {the pink stuff}, heating packs, ice packs, Epsom salt, filling bath tubs multiple times a day, making soup, tea, foot rubs and so on.

These are not in any particular order and are just a few ideas.

What are some ways you show your spouse love?